Wednesday, December 21, 2016
Monday, December 5, 2016
Thursday, December 1, 2016
At the same time it's a step of faith because we haven't yet reached our end financial goal to complete the house. Just the other day as we were reviewing the floor plan/barrier free modifications and turning space needed for Lane's Power wheelchair we realized there wasn't enough room in the garage. After speaking with Tom & our floor designer Brian the best solution they found was adding 4 feet. It's what will be necessary long term but it also means our project cost just increased by another $8,000.
We can't express enough how grateful we are for each of your parts in getting us where we are today. Please don't cease to pray for us. For contentment, peace, wisdom. And the ability to rest in the sufficent & perfect plan of our Father above all.
Fixing our eyes upward,
Emily (for Lane and Nyra too)
Thursday, November 24, 2016
As I write this on Thanksgiving Day, a number of things come to mind for which we are thankful. I'm not going to take the time to write them all out (though that's probably a good thing to do now and again), but thought it might be good to share a couple things here.
We're thankful to look back on the past year and see God's provision for us. I don't mean just with the house and the fundraiser and insurance, etc. All of that has been God providing for us, no question. But we've seen his provision for us in so many other ways this year as well. Emily's job, our apartment now, a fantastic caregiving agency, a new and effective rehab facility, to name some of the more obvious things.
Mainly I wanted to write to tell you how thankful we are for you all. We're thankful for you praying for us, supporting us, following us through these first few years of life with a disability. Thank you.
Monday, November 14, 2016
We got an email today from my case manager about the house. Know what it said? The home modifications we submitted to insurance are going to be covered 100%!
After having to wait for two months to hear back about whether or not insurance would pay for the modifications necessary for the house to accommodate my disability, we were relieved and elated to hear today they will cover all we asked them for! We had been worried because there was always a good chance they would only accept a portion of what we proposed (or flat out deny us all of it).
With this new development, not only has an enormous weight been lifted off our shoulders, but we're one big step closer to finally having a house! The fundraiser that our dear friends put on for us is now in the second phase - check out the latest update on homeforlane.com.
Thank you so much for your faithful prayers. God has been teaching us a lot through our circumstances - the easy ones and the tough ones. He's been teaching but we haven't always been learning. Would you pray for our humility and contentment in whatever God gives us (or doesn't give us)? I guess it's hard to learn if you don't think you need to...
Tuesday, October 25, 2016
Friday, August 12, 2016
Check out this update (link) from a member of our Lane and Emily House Committee, Courtney Byrum. We are so thankful to know that our house building project is really moving forward! In the next couple weeks we hope to purchase property, thanks to so many of you!!
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Sunday, July 31, 2016
Saturday, July 16, 2016
Will you join us in praying for our continued patience and trust in this area tonight? And that our house committee would have tons of open doors as they start contacting subcontractors regarding their time & assistance with our house.
Friday, July 8, 2016
Speaking of ground, we're pretty sure we've found the future Lane Bargeron family property! It's in a great location close to our Michigan family and has nearby access to sidewalks (a plus for Lane's wheelchair). It's close to a couple parks and isn't far from our church, Lane's therapy facility/ doctors/ Emily's job etc. are all just a max of 30 minutes away. We hope to move forward with the property purchase (made possible by you dear friends) in August.
As far as the actual house goes, we've picked out many of the necessary home selections/accessories, but meet with Lane's case manager and our general contractor soon to get everything needed accessibility-wise written up and sent via a letter of medical necessity to Lane's auto insurance so (hopefully) it will be covered. This process can take around 2 weeks after it's sent from our claims adjuster from Geico to Michigan Catastrophic Claims Association. But if everything that's necessary isn't approved, the entire process of writing the letter will need to be started all over again. Please pray that we'd find favor in Geico's/MCCA's eyes and that all of Lane's necessary accommodations would be approved right away (elevator, supplies needed to make doorways/hallways ADA compliant, ramps, therapy room, roll-in shower, yard sidewalk, bigger garage for unloading, etc). Once this step is done we'll have a better picture of overall costs of the entire house. We have a house committee that has been and will be working on lining up subcontractors and supplies. Our end goal is to do this with as little (preferably no) debt as possible because we have no idea what medical/accessibility costs lay ahead with the nature of Lane's injury. So finances may be another area that puts the building on pause for a bit while our committee presents our building project to local subcontractors & businesses to see how they can help (via supplies or time). Please pray with us that this step would not hold us back. As you can see via our our fundraiser a major piece of our overall housing cost has already been provided!!
With our general contractor and committee working side by side with us (and so many of you), our house is becoming more and more of a reality. God is continuing to provide in incredible ways and is daily teaching Lane and I the importance of patience and trust. We know He has the ultimate timetable in mind and will give us wisdom as we lay the desire of this earthly house at His feet.
Thank YOU for not ceasing to pray for, encourage, and support our little family as we continue to walk this TBI road. It means more than you'll ever know.
Sunday, June 5, 2016
Wednesday, April 27, 2016
We realized last night it's been a long time since we've posted anything about our house. I'll give a quick update: we're building!
We always knew it'd be most ideal to build a house, but were ultimately turned off by the greater cost and the sheer logistics of it all. So for months we searched for an already-built home we'd be able to modify, but found there are few if any sufficient to meet our unique needs. Recently however, a local builder reached out to offer his services at a greatly discounted price. A group of our friends have also come together to assist us with much of the logistical side of things, also providing us with their skills and services for a fraction of what they're worth.
Between the fundraiser, the discounts, and what Michigan no-fault auto insurance will assist us with, Emily and I are able to see this home as more of an attainable reality than ever before!
Our long search for a house has now become a search for land on which to build a house. We're so very thankful for all the help we have received and are receiving with what we quite simply would otherwise be unable to do on our own. To God be the glory!
Saturday, March 19, 2016
When Emily and I got in an accident with a semi truck, it left me with a traumatic brain injury. When all of our life plans were shattered in a split second, my view of God was changed. The God I once thought I had all figured out turned out to be much bigger than I’d been giving Him credit for. He showed me the woeful insufficiency of the little box I’d made for Him. Before our accident, I was convinced God would never give me more than I could handle because He loved me. After our accident, when I became unable to control my body or talk like I used to, I’ve become convinced that God has given me more than I can handle precisely because He loves me. God loves me - and you - enough to use hard things to push us into the best place we could possibly be: His loving embrace.
In 2 Corinthians 12, Paul said God gave him “thorn in the flesh”. He called it “a messenger from Satan sent to torment me - to keep me from exalting myself.” It’s unclear what specifically Paul was referring to, but based on the context, and what we’re told of his life in the book of Acts, it’s safe to assume he was given some sort of physical infirmity. Many scholars believe it was blindness, others speculate it may have been a speech disorder or chronic pain. We aren't told for certain, but Paul said he pleaded with God three times to take away whatever it was. God answered with these words: “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” God gave Paul more than he could handle to show His great, sufficient grace to Paul, and to others through Paul.
Sometimes God does give us more than we can handle, but it’s a far greater gift than any sort of physical security or tangible luxury. He gives us hard things so we can better see His grace. He gives us more than we can handle so we have no choice but to fall into the safety of His arms. The little phrase “God will never give you more than you can handle” originates from 1 Corinthians 10:13, which says that God won’t allow us to be tempted beyond what we’re able to resist. He will never put us in a situation where sin is the only option, but He will put His children in situations where His strength shines beautifully through our weakness.
What a grace it is to be given more than you can handle.
Thursday, February 18, 2016
Alright, so I (we) really want to thank all you folks who were involved with this past Saturday's benefit dinner. For those of y'all who hadn't heard, between the dinner and the silent auction, over $7,000 was raised! That is tremendous, you guys. There is a list of names, the length of which I'm sure even we don't know, full of people who contributed to that night in some way. Whether it was with coordination, organization, donating items/services for the auction, serving food, washing dishes, babysitting or something else, you know who you are and what you did and we genuinely thank you. We didn't expect we'd receive that much, but that's what we were given. Man, guys. Thank you. Really seeing this house as a reality now!
More blogging to come. Stay tuned.
Lane (for my little ladies)
Tuesday, February 2, 2016
Our dear friends are putting on a benefit celebration dinner on Saturday February 13th. See info below or go to homeforlane.com for more details! We'd love to see you there!
"Come celebrate with us! Agro-Liquid is hosting a catered dinner and silent auction to celebrate the funds that have been raised for Lane and Emily's house!
Join us at the Agro-Liquid building (3055 W M-21 Saint Johns, 48879) on February 13th at 6:00PM. Admittance fee is $25 per person. Pay at the door.
Due to a much larger amount of interest than we originally planned for, we are asking you to RSVP with your name and the size of your party so we can plan accordingly. There is a maximum of 200 seats in the building. Once we have 200 RSVP's, we will announce here. We apologize for any inconvenience this may cause you. Please email your RSVP to firstname.lastname@example.org. We hope to see you there!"
Wednesday, January 20, 2016
I think it's about time we let you all know how we're doing. Mainly Nyra, because she's the cutest of our little Bargeron trio (let's be real. She's the main attraction these days anyway). For those who didn't hear, she became a one-year-old last month. That's right, a whole year! Gone are the months of infantile serenity and sleepy submission; our daughter is a crawling, grabbing, squealing roly poly of energy and love. We're still pretty young and nimble (I'm young and Emily's nimble) but Nyra puts us both to shame with her speed. Emily will put her on the floor with some toys, and before we can blink twice she'll be gone: pulling dishes out of cupboards, finding cords to chew on, splashing in the (clean) potty water, and wreaking adorable havoc across the whole of our little apartment. It's so cool watching her learn and discover things for the very first time. Little things we don't even think about, like how carpet feels different than wood, how putting a cup over your mouth makes your voice sound different, how Mommy sings much better than Daddy and that some things taste different than others. Speaking of taste, we do not have a picky eater. Nyra eats pretty much whatever we throw at her (figuratively and literally), from salmon to olives to spinach to black beans.
This proud daddy is also an undeserving husband. My Emily (a close second to Nyra in the Cutest Bargeron contest) just got a Per Diem job as a nurse at a nearby hospital. She'll be working with patients like me on the rehab floor. This woman is amazing. The things I can't physically do for Nyra, she takes care of with supermommy ability, with a strength and grace we both know can only come through Jesus Christ. She feeds Nyra (and me) her deliciously cooked food, she changes poopy diapers (not too upset I can't do that) she gets up in the night when Nyra cries, and she takes care of the physical side of Nyra's discipline.
Discipline is something we're finding Nyra needs more of every day, and it reminds us that parenting takes work, just like marriage does. It's a wonderful blessing and a whole lot of fun, but it's not a free ride. We could just cruise (and too often do), hoping things turn out alright, but we realize there's a difference between parenting and just being parents. We would be doing Nyra a disservice if we let her do whatever she wanted, just as we'd do ourselves a disservice by chasing after our every fancy and whim. We only find lasting satisfaction and true happiness in Jesus, and Emily and I are working in His strength to teach Nyra the freedom of this submission someday.
So there are my girls. As for me, the happy man between these two beautiful ladies, I'm still doing outpatient rehab 2-3 days a week and lots of therapy at home. We're really thankful for the agency that provides me with caregivers to help me with daily activities I can't do without help (which I guess is just about everything). They also take me to therapy and anywhere else I want to go, so I'm often out running errands Emily doesn't have time for. Otherwise I'm a big reader, and, in case you couldn't tell, really enjoy being a husband and father.
That's us for now. Till next time.
Lane (for my honeys)
Tuesday, January 19, 2016
Note: All gifts will be doubled whether the amount is anonymous or not."