Wednesday, December 21, 2016

Ground Breaking Day!

We officially broke ground on our land today! 

Stay tuned for updates to come in the following months as our house is built. We'd appreciate prayer for safety of the builders, no setbacks during the building process, and that we'd have the right subcontractors lined up at the right times. Also that we'd be able to finish debt free, a major desire of ours especially with the nature of Lane's injury and the amount of medical attention that's been necessary thus far. See homeforlane.com for updates on the fundraising process. Our House Committee is doing a terrific job at keeping this site updated and letting people know how they can tangibly assist in the building of our home!

We appreciate you, friends and family, and hope you have a wonderful Christmas as you celebrate our Emmanuel!

Emily

Monday, December 5, 2016

New Season, New Opportunity For Growth..

We got our first official stick-to-the-ground snow yesterday (in Mid Michigan at least). Also the first official snow to require shovels and windshield scrapers in order to safely leave our parking lot. Can I just say this is one more huge thing I'm looking forward to not doing (with having a garage) next Winter? Growing up I loved shoveling the driveway, scraping snow off my parents cars etc...but also had 5 siblings that were just as eager & able as I. I don't say this desiring pity on any level, just being honest. Lane too is immensely grateful (probably more than I am) that this task will be taken off my list, yet another thing that he used to do without question. Some nights it's too easy to sit and mentally count what we miss and would do about anything to have back for any amount of time. We know and recognize this is ok and 100% normal as long as it doesn't lead to bitterness, discontent, or lack of trust in God's much grander plan. Will you pray for us in this area tonight? We are so thankful that having a toddler brings a whole new beauty & wonder to this fascinating season, but it's a hard one nonetheless. 

Thursday, December 1, 2016

Tomorrow is a BIG day. One we've been looking forward to for a long time. We meet with our general contractor aka mastermind, Tom Motz, and excavator to talk breaking ground. We are absolutely thrilled we've reached this point. 

At the same time it's a step of faith because we haven't yet reached our end financial goal to complete the house. Just the other day as we were reviewing the floor plan/barrier free modifications and turning space needed for Lane's Power wheelchair we realized there wasn't enough room in the garage. After speaking with Tom & our floor designer Brian the best solution they found was adding 4 feet. It's what will be necessary long term but it also means our project cost just increased by another $8,000.

We can't express enough how grateful we are for each of your parts in getting us where we are today. Please don't cease to pray for us. For contentment, peace, wisdom. And the ability to rest in the sufficent & perfect plan of our Father above all. 

Fixing our eyes upward, 

Emily (for Lane and Nyra too)

Thursday, November 24, 2016

Thankful

As I write this on Thanksgiving Day, a number of things come to mind for which we are thankful. I'm not going to take the time to write them all out (though that's probably a good thing to do now and again), but thought it might be good to share a couple things here.

We're thankful to look back on the past year and see God's provision for us. I don't mean just with the house and the fundraiser and insurance, etc. All of that has been God providing for us, no question. But we've seen his provision for us in so many other ways this year as well. Emily's job, our apartment now, a fantastic caregiving agency, a new and effective rehab facility, to name some of the more obvious things.

Mainly I wanted to write to tell you how thankful we are for you all. We're thankful for you praying for us, supporting us, following us through these first few years of life with a disability. Thank you.

Lane

Monday, November 14, 2016

Approved

We got an email today from my case manager about the house. Know what it said? The home modifications we submitted to insurance are going to be covered 100%!

After having to wait for two months to hear back about whether or not insurance would pay for the modifications necessary for the house to accommodate my disability, we were relieved and elated to hear today they will cover all we asked them for! We had been worried because there was always a good chance they would only accept a portion of what we proposed (or flat out deny us all of it).

With this new development, not only has an enormous weight been lifted off our shoulders, but we're one big step closer to finally having a house! The fundraiser that our dear friends put on for us is now in the second phase - check out the latest update on homeforlane.com.

Thank you so much for your faithful prayers. God has been teaching us a lot through our circumstances - the easy ones and the tough ones. He's been teaching but we haven't always been learning. Would you pray for our humility and contentment in whatever God gives us (or doesn't give us)? I guess it's hard to learn if you don't think you need to...

Peace out,
Lane

Tuesday, October 25, 2016

What are we waiting for?

We've been asked this question more times than we can count in regards to our house building project recently.

Six weeks ago tomorrow the home mods report that was meticulously created by Lane's occupational therapist, PM&R (rehab doctor), and general contractor was sent to Michigan Catastrophic Claims Association (MCCA). In short it was (practically) a small book of Lane's home modification needs because of his injury. From the amount of extra paint/flooring/drywall needed throughout the entire house, to ramps, to roll-in shower, to ceiling lift, to stair lift, to ADA compliant doorways/halls etc. You get the idea :) 

We couldn't be more thankful for the incredibly gifted and caring individuals that spent weeks on the home mods report itself to ensure it adequately portrayed the severity of Lane's injury. The process of hearing back from MCCA after report submission, we were originally told would take 2-3 weeks. And here we sit at the edge of our seats now almost two months later, still waiting for the answer that will allow us to either start right away, or wait a bit longer to raise more funds. As we've been waiting the past 6 weeks, God has been teaching us once again that our timeline is certainly not always His, and how pivotal it is rest in His hand in ALL the details of this house. If He chooses to use this waiting period to draw us nearer to Him in dependence and trust as He has in so much the past four years, then we gladly wait. 

This is certainly easier said than done most days. When you think of us will you pray for our patience and peace in this area? There's not anything more that can be done on our end to speed this report process up, so here we wait. The choice is ours to grumble and complain at how long it's taking or to continue to submit this major request /process to our all-knowing Father. 

Gratefully,

Emily

Friday, August 12, 2016

Subcontractors Needed...


 Hey All!

Check out this update (link) from a member of our Lane and Emily House Committee, Courtney Byrum. We are so thankful to know that our house building project is really moving forward! In the next couple weeks we hope to purchase property, thanks to so many of you!!

-e
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Sunday, July 31, 2016

Work

When our accident happened, I was just twenty-one years old with only a few "real" jobs under my belt: I had done plenty of work in my life, but only had three jobs that required me to fill out a tax form. Because of this, I didn't earn enough work credits then to qualify for disability income now.

We're so thankful for Emily's job as a nurse, because God has provided for us through it. But we really don't prefer that she's our only source of income. I want to work. I miss working for us. Emily is remarkable at being a selfless wife and mother in addition to being the breadwinner, she's just great. But that's an awful lot to ask of anybody, especially considering that she also does the majority of my care.  For all these reasons, I've been looking (unsuccessfully) for work for the past couple of years.

A physical disability as severe and extensive as mine obviously limits the options for employment; I can't do anything that requires arms, legs or lots of talking. My physical limitations wouldn't be as much of an issue if they were offset by a marketable education. But, though I don't feel insufficiently educated, beyond high school I only have an unaccredited Bible degree to my name.

I'm not posting this to complain, but to present my situation with honesty and humbly ask if you know of any jobs I might be qualified for. I can skillfully write, edit, and proofread; words are my thing, and I know how to handle them well. I have also been learning the basics of website design via WordPress, and am willing and able to do or learn anything else computer-or-word-related, online or offline.

I realize my list of skills isn't very impressive, but if you have or know of any sort of work I could do, would you please contact me? My email address is lanebargeron@gmail.com, or you can send us a message on Facebook.

Love you guys.

Lane

Saturday, July 16, 2016

Trusting in our Father's plan....

We met with our general contractor this week to talk realistic pricing of the type of home our family will need. With the elevator, extra concrete for a yard walk, amount of basement we'll need finished for lanes therapy room etc, it was honestly overwhelming to say the least (and this didn't even include land). We knew it'd be around this price range, we just were reminded that we aren't in a position financially to comfortably begin the build right away. We know God has brought us this far for a reason and we know this proposed price is before anything is deducted from insurance and all y'all have helped with. I (Emily) especially could use prayer for contentment and patience as I'm the type that likes to stay at task with one thing and focus on that only until it's finished well. And in my eyes the sooner it gets done the better. We have no timeline yet though and this desire is totally out of our hands until we have the supplies/finances/subcontractors willing to stand beside us. Recognizing this fact is a lot harder some days than others, but know it will be beautiful in the end because God is teaching us trust in another huge way.

Will you join us in praying for our continued patience and trust in this area tonight? And that our house committee would have tons of open doors as they start contacting subcontractors regarding their time & assistance with our house.

Eternally grateful,

Emily

Friday, July 8, 2016

House Update: Moving Forward!

It's been about 3 months since we've posted about our house building project. Although the ground hasn't been broken and some days it seems that the process is taking way longer than anticipated, we're making baby steps towards our end goal.

Speaking of ground, we're pretty sure we've found the future Lane Bargeron family property! It's in a great location close to our Michigan family and has nearby access to sidewalks (a plus for Lane's wheelchair). It's close to a couple parks and isn't far from our church, Lane's therapy facility/ doctors/ Emily's job etc. are all just a max of 30 minutes away. We hope to move forward with the property purchase (made possible by you dear friends) in August.

As far as the actual house goes, we've picked out many of the necessary home selections/accessories, but meet with Lane's case manager and our general contractor soon to get everything needed accessibility-wise written up and sent via a letter of medical necessity to Lane's auto insurance so (hopefully) it will be covered. This process can take around 2 weeks after it's sent from our claims adjuster from Geico to Michigan Catastrophic Claims Association. But if everything that's necessary isn't approved, the entire process of writing the letter will need to be started all over again. Please pray that we'd find favor in Geico's/MCCA's eyes and that all of Lane's necessary accommodations would be approved right away (elevator, supplies needed to make doorways/hallways ADA compliant, ramps, therapy room, roll-in shower, yard sidewalk, bigger garage for unloading, etc). Once this step is done we'll have a better picture of overall costs of the entire house. We have a house committee that has been and will be working on lining up subcontractors and supplies. Our end goal is to do this with as little (preferably no) debt as possible because we have no idea what medical/accessibility costs lay ahead with the nature of Lane's injury. So finances may be another area that puts the building on pause for a bit while our committee presents our building project to local subcontractors & businesses to see how they can help (via supplies or time). Please pray with us that this step would not hold us back. As you can see via our our fundraiser a major piece of our overall housing cost has already  been provided!!

With our general contractor and committee working side by side with us (and so many of you),  our house is becoming more and more of a reality. God is continuing to provide in incredible ways and is daily teaching Lane and I the importance of patience and trust. We know He has the ultimate timetable in mind and will give us wisdom as we lay the desire of this earthly house at His feet.

Thank YOU for not ceasing to pray for, encourage, and support our little family as we continue to walk this TBI road. It means more than you'll ever know.

Emily

Sunday, June 5, 2016

Walkie-Talkie

Folks, our daughter walks. I use the term "walk" loosely, because she hasn't quite figured out how to effectively use her hips yet. It's more of an unsteady duck-footed march, endearingly hilarious to watch. There's simply no stopping her now. She's a tiny toddling bulldozer scooping up and trying to eat anything she can get her hands on.
Her vocabulary portfolio has also increased exponentially since I last wrote. In addition to her ever-increasing arsenal of animal sounds she says please, thank you, Pops (my dad), Papa (Emily's dad), Daddy, Mommy, sings Jesus Loves Me ("Yeth, eeth, mee!"), and a hundred other things I won't bore you by listing.
Speaking of speaking, Emily and I have been sobered and almost a little intimidated to see just how closely Nyra pays attention and copies us. As any parent can testify, it's amazing and uncanny how a tiny pair of eyes and ears can put us on our best behavior whenever they're around. Being a parent means being an example. Our girl is going to do what we do whether we like it or not. We're so thankful that Jesus, the Ultimate Example, is also Jesus the Graceful Enabler, because it's evident that in our own strength we couldn't teach her anything but two-faced selfishness. For that reason we're thankful that Jesus is our life and salvation and everlasting hope. Emily and I pray every day that Nyra will know Him as this from a young age, as we were blessed to do.
We're finding that as we're raising our child, God is raising us, His children. When Nyra looks me right in the eye and deliberately disobeys me, her earthly father, it's a tiny picture of my natural bent to do the same to my heavenly Father. But likewise, the time I enjoy snuggling with her while she drinks her milk before bed reminds me that I can call God "Daddy" and find rest in Him because of what Christ accomplished on the cross.
Thank You Jesus for making me a daddy. Thank you Jesus for giving me Your Daddy.

Wednesday, April 27, 2016

House Update

We realized last night it's been a long time since we've posted anything about our house. I'll give a quick update: we're building!

We always knew it'd be most ideal to build a house, but were ultimately turned off by the greater cost and the sheer logistics of it all. So for months we searched for an already-built home we'd be able to modify, but found there are few if any sufficient to meet our unique needs. Recently however, a local builder reached out to offer his services at a greatly discounted price. A group of our friends have also come together to assist us with much of the logistical side of things, also providing us with their skills and services for a fraction of what they're worth.

Between the fundraiser, the discounts, and what Michigan no-fault auto insurance will assist us with, Emily and I are able to see this home as more of an attainable reality than ever before!

Our long search for a house has now become a search for land on which to build a house. We're so very thankful for all the help we have received and are receiving with what we quite simply would otherwise be unable to do on our own. To God be the glory!

Saturday, March 19, 2016

More than you can handle

When Emily and I got in an accident with a semi truck, it left me with a traumatic brain injury. When all of our life plans were shattered in a split second, my view of God was changed. The God I once thought I had all figured out turned out to be much bigger than I’d been giving Him credit for. He showed me the woeful insufficiency of the little box I’d made for Him. Before our accident, I was convinced God would never give me more than I could handle because He loved me. After our accident, when I became unable to control my body or talk like I used to, I’ve become convinced  that God has given me more than I can handle precisely because He loves me. God loves me - and you - enough to use hard things to push us into the best place we could possibly be: His loving embrace.
In 2 Corinthians 12, Paul said God gave him “thorn in the flesh”. He called it “a messenger from Satan sent to torment me - to keep me from exalting myself.” It’s unclear what specifically Paul was referring to, but based on the context, and what we’re told of his life in the book of Acts, it’s safe to assume he was given some sort of physical infirmity. Many scholars believe it was blindness, others speculate it may have been a speech disorder or chronic pain. We aren't told for certain, but Paul said he pleaded with God three times to take away whatever it was. God answered with these words: “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” God gave Paul more than he could handle to show His great, sufficient grace to Paul, and to others through Paul.

Sometimes God does give us more than we can handle, but it’s a far greater gift than any sort of physical security or tangible luxury. He gives us hard things so we can better see His grace. He gives us more than we can handle so we have no choice but to fall into the safety of His arms. The little phrase “God will never give you more than you can handle” originates from 1 Corinthians 10:13, which says that God won’t allow us to be tempted beyond what we’re able to resist. He will never put us in a situation where sin is the only option, but He will put His children in situations where His strength shines beautifully through our weakness.

What a grace it is to be given more than you can handle.

Thursday, February 18, 2016

Valentine's Day's Eve

Alright, so I (we) really want to thank all you folks who were involved with this past Saturday's benefit dinner. For those of y'all who hadn't heard, between the dinner and the silent auction, over $7,000 was raised! That is tremendous, you guys. There is a list of names, the length of which I'm sure even we don't know, full of people who contributed to that night in some way. Whether it was with coordination,  organization, donating items/services for the auction, serving food, washing dishes, babysitting or something else, you know who you are and what you did and we genuinely thank you. We didn't expect we'd receive that much, but that's what we were given. Man, guys. Thank you. Really seeing this house as a reality now!

More blogging to come. Stay tuned.

Lane (for my little ladies)

Tuesday, February 2, 2016

Benefit Dinner


Our dear friends are putting on a benefit celebration dinner on Saturday February 13th. See info below or go to homeforlane.com for more details! We'd love to see you there!

"Come celebrate with us! Agro-Liquid is hosting a catered dinner and silent auction to celebrate the funds that have been raised for Lane and Emily's house!

Join us at the Agro-Liquid building (3055 W M-21 Saint Johns, 48879) on February 13th at 6:00PM. Admittance fee is $25 per person. Pay at the door.


Due to a much larger amount of interest than we originally planned for, we are asking you to RSVP with your name and the size of your party so we can plan accordingly. There is a maximum of 200 seats in the building. Once we have 200 RSVP's, we will announce here. We apologize for any inconvenience this may cause you. Please email your RSVP to homeforlane@gmail.com. We hope to see you there!"

Wednesday, January 20, 2016

Us Lately

Man, it sure has been  a while since our last non-house update. As you know, we're stoked about and staggered by the amount of time, money, effort and love that's gone into this fundraiser. We wish we could somehow thank each of you in person who've contributed. You've blown us away and we're grateful.

I think it's about time we let you all know how we're doing. Mainly Nyra, because she's the cutest of our little Bargeron trio (let's be real. She's the main attraction these days anyway). For those who didn't hear, she became a one-year-old last month. That's right, a whole year! Gone are the months of infantile serenity and sleepy submission; our daughter is a crawling, grabbing, squealing roly poly of energy and love. We're still pretty young and nimble (I'm young and Emily's nimble) but Nyra puts us both to shame with her speed. Emily will put her on the floor with some toys, and before we can blink twice she'll be gone: pulling dishes out of cupboards, finding cords to chew on, splashing in the (clean) potty water, and wreaking adorable havoc across the whole of our little apartment. It's so cool watching her learn and discover things for the very first time. Little things we don't even think about, like how carpet feels different than wood, how putting a cup over your mouth makes your voice sound different, how Mommy sings much better than Daddy and that some things taste different than others. Speaking of taste, we do not have a picky eater. Nyra eats pretty much whatever we throw at her (figuratively and literally), from salmon to olives to spinach to black beans.

This proud daddy is also an undeserving husband. My Emily (a close second to Nyra in the Cutest Bargeron contest) just got a Per Diem job as a nurse at a nearby hospital. She'll be working with patients like me on the rehab floor. This woman is amazing. The things I can't physically do for Nyra, she takes care of with supermommy ability, with a strength and grace we both know can only come through Jesus Christ. She feeds Nyra (and me) her deliciously cooked food, she changes poopy diapers (not too upset I can't do that) she gets up in the night when Nyra cries, and she takes care of the physical side of Nyra's discipline.

Discipline is something we're finding Nyra needs more of every day, and it reminds us that parenting takes work, just like marriage does. It's a wonderful blessing and a whole lot of fun, but it's not a free ride. We could just cruise (and too often do), hoping things turn out alright, but we realize there's a difference between parenting and just being parents. We would be doing Nyra a disservice if we let her do whatever she wanted, just as we'd do ourselves a disservice by chasing after our every fancy and whim. We only find lasting satisfaction and true happiness in Jesus, and Emily and I are working in His strength to teach Nyra the freedom of this submission someday.

So there are my girls. As for me, the happy man between these two beautiful ladies, I'm still doing outpatient rehab 2-3 days a week and lots of therapy at home. We're really thankful for the agency that provides me with caregivers to help me with daily activities I can't do without help (which I guess is just about everything). They also take me to therapy and anywhere else I want to go, so I'm often out running errands Emily doesn't have time for. Otherwise I'm a big reader, and, in case you couldn't tell, really enjoy being a husband and father.

That's us for now. Till next time.

Lane (for my honeys)

Tuesday, January 19, 2016

Exciting News!

Just when we think our fundraiser is coming to a stop we are blown away with another person or group's generosity. Can drives. Bake sales. Salesperson donations. People who don't know us from Adam simply handing us a check because they've heard of our story. Whether it's been $1 or hundreds, we couldn't do this without you, friends. Thank you for continuing to stand beside us and make this dream (need) reality. Looking forward to the day my dear husband will be able to carry me over the threshold of our home with no one behind his chair. And the day we'll be able to hold hands side by side again as LANE guides where we go. Or even better, being able to sit in his lap as he navigates the way. With the size of our current place the practice & consistent use of his power chair simply hasn't been doable. Also, check out the post below that our friends made on our fundraising page yesterday. We are absolutely thrilled. Thanking God for His perfect provision tonight!
Overwhelmed with gratitude,
Emily 

"Breaking News!!!! A generous donor has offered to match ALL gifts up to $5,000 or up until Sunday January 24th (whichever comes first)! Don’t miss your chance to double your gift to Lane and Emily this week!
Note: All gifts will be doubled whether the amount is anonymous or not."